It’s no secret that we have a body image problem in this country. We are repeatedly told what a “perfect” body is, and no matter what your body type, there is always some “flaw” to be found. We are all too fat, too skinny, too pale, too dark, too tall, too short, too muscular…the list goes on and on. And while body image pressure is placed on both men and women, as a woman I can really only speak for my sex and what it’s like growing up as a woman.
I can remember very few times in my life where I actually felt confident about my body growing up, which is crazy! I mean, I was a kid for goodness sakes! As a dancer, I always felt like I was never thin or tall enough, and my muscular stature always stood out. When I hung out with my non-dancer friends, I always felt too tall. One of my best friends growing up was very short and thin. Just literally a tinier human than me. I remember one day her brother called me fat, and it took a long time for me to get over that (and I still remember it to this day, so I can only imagine what it would have been like to have been teased for being fat on a consistent basis). It really just took me realizing that I wasn’t fat, but I was just a bigger human than my friend, and that’s okay.
I think every woman can recall at least one time like this. And probably a lot of women can recall maybe hundreds of times like this.
I have no answer for how to make it better or how to make yourself feel better. I wish I did. Some days I feel confident and beautiful, and other days I look in the mirror and feel like a hag. I don’t know if that’s normal or what.
The only way I feel like we can as a society start changing body image issues is to focus on how we talk about each other. Everyone is guilty of criticizing another woman for the way she looks. We say it to make ourselves feel better, or to take someone down a peg, or to justify why something good or bad is happening to someone, and it’s wrong! And the same goes for the way we talk about men.
I think sometimes our body image complexes can get in the way of keeping ourselves healthy. We starve ourselves and work out like crazy to look a certain way while ignoring the things our body really needs. Most of us aren’t built to look like supermodels – that’s not our healthy weight. And of course, there’s nothing wrong with looking like a supermodel either! The point is, we need to recognize that healthy comes in so many shapes and sizes, and that is what truly matters. Love your body. Eat clean, healthy foods, stay active, and most of all – be happy in your own skin!!
I was really nervous to take these photos because i don’t really love to show my stomach, especially on the blog! But, I had the chance to preview the new Fabletics store in the Cherry Creek mall (which is now open btw!) and they gave me a gift card to pick something out. I got this bra and I thought it was super cute, but no shirts looked good over it. So, I thought well screw it. I’m gonna show off this cute bra and that’s that. I gotta say, I was very impressed with the quality and the fit. The bra is not only cute, but also very supportive. Total win-win! I had never tried Fabletics before, so I was pleasantly surprised.
Anyway, I thought this would be the perfect opportunity to get the conversations tarted about body image. I would love to hear your thoughts on the subject! Feel free to leave a comment here or on Instagram 🙂